It's not what you look at that matters, it's what you see. Thoreau
Depression is one of the leading cause of disability in the U.S., and it affects more than 15 million American adults age 18 and older.
Depression disconnects people from their own life, and for many--not enjoying life, feelings of loneliness, hopelessness, and the need to self isolate, are the symptoms that bring them into therapy. For any number of reasons - trauma, loss - their true nature has been diminished, co-opted, denied.
Ruminating over the past is often at the core of depression. However, most of the actions we take and the emotions we feel are a result of what we expect will occur in the future, and as a result our life is determined by how we see this future. We will explore the way in which you create your own future, and focus on skills to set up the desired future and more of the life you want to live.
Do not judge my story by the chapter you walked in on. J.H.
Most people who suffer depression also suffer from an anxiety disorder. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the U.S., affecting 40 million adults in the United States age 18 and older, or 18% of the population.
Anxiety disorders are highly treatable, and they come in many forms—social anxiety, panic, and phobias.
Three highly effective, well established and lasting treatments for anxiety disorders are CBT, DBT and EMDR. Combined, these approaches will focus on exploring the interaction between your environments, thoughts, emotions, behaviors & decisions you make in life. You will also develop skills for managing distress, mindfulness, and emotional self regulation.
Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it... Maya Angelou
Most people get angry at least once or twice per week--that’s perfectly normal. What’s not normal is long lasting, unrelenting anger that happens fairly frequently. Unhealthy anger often turns to rage, it can last for hours, days, weeks and even months or years. It can consume you and other relationships. Sometimes it results in "weaponized" silence where you shut out others to punish or hurt them. Sometimes there is aggression, cruel responses, and problems with important people in your life or job.
In therapy you will learn skills for managing anger--progressive relaxation, healthier thinking patterns and problem solving strategies, and spotting triggers and thoughts that lead to anger. You will learn assertiveness skills so that you can express yourself effectively and feel more in control of situations.
Always remember that you are absolutely unique. Just like everyone else. M Meade
Knowing yourself with others is key to knowing and getting along with others. How am I in a group? One on one? Do I talk a lot, or very little? Do others see me as angry, happy, positive or dismissive? Do I listen well, or am I impatient? Am I sensitive to others or do I care mostly about getting my needs met or a task done? When others speak, am I listening, or thinking about what I am going to say? Am I quick to anger, defensive or open and accepting when someone talks about my behavior? Do I ramble on focusing on myself? Do I help others feel good about themselves?
The reality is, 90% of the solution will be determined by your approach, your attitude, and how you think and behave in relationships.
Be decisive. Right or wrong, make a decision. The road of life is paved with flat squirrels who couldn't make a decision (bumper sticker)
Most people don't understand why or how others develop an addiction. They blame moral weakness, a weak will, or simple choice. In reality, alcohol abuse is a complex disease, and quitting usually takes more than good intentions or a strong will. Alcohol changes the brain in ways that make quitting hard, even for those who are desperate to quit.
In treating an addiction, I use research based practices stemming from SMART Recovery, such as spotting and tracking urges, adjusting negative self talk and beliefs, relapse prevention, and mindfulness skills. In therapy you will learn to spot triggers, manage stress, and reconnect with others in a healthy way.
We suffer more often in imagination than in reality. Seneca
Therapy "models" I adhere to:
1000 Brooktree Rd #209, Wexfrd PA 1090
Monday - Friday: 9am - 8pm
Saturday: By appointment